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Manj Bahra

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There’s a much better alternative that people constantly neglect

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” — William Durant

I hate goals.

It’s a bold statement, given we live in a society that is practically obsessed with them. That doesn’t change my mind. I hate them — with a passion.

Let me ask you a question — how many goals have you set that you have actually reached? Be honest with yourself. Now, what did you think when you weren’t able to achieve them? If you’re anything like me, then you’ve set countless goals that you never saw through and subsequently…

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If you’re struggling with constant critical thoughts, here’s an effective strategy to regain control and start living life on your terms

What’s getting in the way of the life you really want?

Is it talent, drive, or motivation?

Or is it a question of timing, circumstance, and environment?

For most of us, the honest answer is ourselves. More specifically, it’s a harsh, critical, and borderline abusive voice in our mind that is constantly holding us back. It’s the same voice that starts chattering away every time you try to do something to better yourself or life doesn’t go perfectly to plan. It shows no mercy and can easily lead you to develop false beliefs about yourself, your capability, and your self-worth.

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When the standard advice doesn’t work, it’s time to go deeper

Sometimes another person can take over your life. Whether it’s a new infatuation, long-term crush, or ex-partner, they can literally consume your being. Of course, the consequences can be dire. It can become so overwhelming, you find yourself unable to focus on anything but that person and the situation you find yourself in. You might find it impossible to concentrate at work, dropping previous passions, and even struggle to talk about anything else with your friends. It’s like this person is looming over every second of your existence, and soon you start to question your own sanity and mental health.

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How to smash through the most common limiting belief and start reaching your potential

“We are what we believe we are” — C.S. Lewis

I’m a huge believer in people. It doesn’t matter who you are — if you’re reading this, you have the potential to be great at something. There is a talent within you that is waiting to be unlocked. I don’t care if you didn’t get top grades, didn’t go to university, or haven’t managed to reach 6 figures by 25 — there is a diamond inside you that is ready to be claimed.

You know you can be more than you are now. You might get that feeling in your…

Yesterday I published a piece that has got many readers reaching out to me.

It’s called Why Unrequited Love Is The Greatest Gift.

The reaction has been overwhelmingly positive, though some questioned whether I really believe this is true.

I am 100% confident in that statement.

Zero doubt.

All in.

Heartbreak is a gift. Getting through unrequited love is a golden opportunity. This goes beyond just relationships and covers rejection in general. Not getting the job I thought I wanted actually led me to avenues I didn’t think possible. Failing at my first business taught me invaluable lessons that helped…

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Stop resisting rejection and grab the golden opportunity at hand

Unrequited love is amongst the most painful emotional experiences a person can go through. Aside from the hurt of being rejected by a person we care for, we start to ask some tough questions about ourselves, including:

  • What’s wrong with me?
  • What did I do wrong?
  • Am I unattractive?
  • Am I not good enough?
  • Will I ever find love?

All of the above can easily take us into a dark place mentally. We genuinely start to develop false beliefs that ultimately lead to one thing — deep-rooted acceptance that we are not good enough or worthy of love.

When we…

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Proven ideas to rekindle the magic and have a breakthrough

“Don’t it always seem to go, that you don’t know what you’ve got till it’s gone”

When you first start dating, it’s blissful. The whole experience is shiny and new. You get butterflies in your stomach, tell your friends this person is different, and fantasize about an exciting future together. Of course, anyone who has been in multiple relationships knows there is a honeymoon phase. Exactly when this ends varies from couple to couple, but it will happen. There will come a time where something silly like the sound of their chewing or how they snore sends shivers down your…

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A plan for when those closest to you keep making the same painful mistakes

I care about my friends. I’m sure you do too. That’s why when I see them repeating the same mistakes that have previously led to hurt, I find it hard to sit and do nothing. This is especially true of relationships. I have several close companions, both men and women, who seem to date the wrong people continually.

Perhaps you can relate.

Maybe you have a friend or even a family member who has a habit of going after the wrong person. All you want to do is help because you don’t want to see someone you care about hurt…

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Self-esteem and worth are not earned — they are rediscovered

You’re only ever living in the feeling of your thinking — Michael Neil

Recently, I had the privilege of watching a young baby learn to walk. It was the culmination of weeks of trial and error. From crawling around with innate curiosity, she worked her way to standing, taking a few steps, falling, and getting back up again. Over time, the falls became less frequent, and soon she was able to walk.

When you think about it, it’s truly remarkable how babies go from commando crawls to strolling — all on their own.

But what’s even more incredible is that…

Manj Bahra

Transformation Coach | I help people silence the inner critic, destroy limiting beliefs, and unlock their potential| More about me |

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