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Three Reasons Why You’re Struggling To Move On From Unrequited Love
Trying to move on from heartbreak? Here are three things that keep you stuck and how to handle them.
“Success is neither magical nor mysterious. Success is the natural consequence of consistently applying the basic fundamentals.” — Jim Rohn
Few things match the emotional turmoil of heartbreak. Whether it’s a crush that doesn’t feel the same way or a relationship that unexpectedly ended, the result is pain. Sadly, it often goes beyond raw hurt. Rejection can cause long-term damage to our self-confidence and sense of worth. It can render us unable to focus on anything else in everyday life, leading to poor performance at work and a complete lack of energy or motivation to do anything.
But aside from that, one of the toughest aspects is logically knowing you need to move on, yet emotionally being unable to. This can be incredibly frustrating and leave you feeling stuck and helpless. You may even start to blame yourself and think there is something wrong with you.
Fortunately, I’m here to assure you otherwise. The truth is moving on is damn hard, not least because the advice online is appalling. It’s rarely as simple as time or getting back out there. There are many factors that aren’t talked about enough. Having coached countless clients through the process, I’ve learned what works. Today, I want to share some of my top tips with you so that you can put the past behind you and start creating the future you deserve.
Let’s look at three of the biggest reasons you’re stuck and what you can do about it.
Your Self-Fulfilling Beliefs (Of Doom)
If you’ve had any experience in self-development, you’ve probably heard coaches talk about beliefs. Many overcomplicate this, so let’s keep it simple — these are the rules that unconsciously govern your life and the lens through which you view the world. For example, one person might believe money is evil and associated with greed. Another might think you will be happy if you do what you love. Neither is inherently true in the world because they are not physical laws. They are perspectives, and interpretations concluded from life…
